Journal #4 - How does it feel -

How does it feel when someone does not use your name, gives you the cold shoulder, does not make eye contact and only greets you with complaints? Well, I don't like any of these.  When someone does not  make eye contact with me when I come into a room or when I meet someone on the street, it makes me feel like I'm nobody. It makes me feel like I'm not worthy of any recognition at all. It makes me feel like that person wishes that I wasn't even there. When someone gives me the cold shoulder it makes me want to tap that person on the shoulder and say "Hello, are you there? I'm here, so please turn around because I'm talking to you."  When someone only greets me with complaints, it makes me want to turn around and run. It depends on how they start the complaint. If someone comes in slinging verbally abusive words my defense system will automatically go up.  I will not want to help you. Honestly, if someone is being disrespectful to me, I will not want to help solve the problem. If someone comes up to me saying " I have a problem. I was wondering if we can work this out," I then would be ok with helping find a way to solve this problem. We need to show respect to each other. Part of showing respect is to use a persons name when met, being warm and friendly and always making eye contact.